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5 Flaws That Sabotage Success

Lots of people I talk to these days are looking to start new business ventures or find more fulfilling jobs. As a real estate agent, I definitely understand the desire for independence and to do something you love. It can be hard to pursue success in a new venture, though. I’ve often wondered what stands in the way of our desire and our ability to achieve the success. Well, recently I found a little insight into this question.

In Jack Zenger and Joe Folkman’s book, “The Extraordinary Leader: Turning good managers into great leaders,” researchers identified five “fatal flaws” which were effectively “success killers.” In contrast to areas where professionals had “allowable weaknesses” (i.e. deficiencies in skills which could be avoided or overshadowed by other strengths), these five weaknesses were considered absolutely toxic to a successful career. The flaws included:

  1. Lack of initiative
  2. Lack of accountability
  3. Lack of openness to new or different ideas
  4. Lack of core interpersonal skills or competencies
  5. Inability to learn from mistakes

It’s interesting to note that these five flaws are generally organized around inactivity as a result of FEAR. For example:

  1. Lack of initiative = fear of making a wrong decision (fear of mistakes)
    2. Lack of accountability = fear we’ll have to face our own laziness or inactivity
    3. Lack of openness to new ideas = fear we won’t be able to adapt, or we’re being “left behind”
    4. Lack of core interpersonal skills = fear of social interaction, fear of low self-esteem
    5. Inability to learn from mistakes = fear of change

To overcome these fears, we have to transform them into hope. Understanding that growth comes from adversity, it helps to frame our fears as undernourished hope for change and prosperity. “Maybe I’ll get it wrong,” needs to become “What happens if I get it right?”

If you’ve found yourself hesitating out of fear, perhaps this will shed a little light on your own resistance!

Adjusting Attitude with Gratitude

“Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.”

-Aldous Huxley, (1894 – 1963) English writer

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Do you have a practice for dealing with daily stress? I thought I’d share a simple and surprisingly effective exercise you can do each day that will not only boost your spirits, but lighten the perceived burden of “the daily grind.” No running shoes required! (WHAT? No running shoes required? Coming from ME???) Yes. You can do it without breaking a sweat, right from the comfort of your car, your desk, or even the line at Starbucks.

It sounds simple, but it’s quite powerful: Each day, think of five things for which you are grateful. They don’t have to be big things. In fact, it’s great to start with the little things. It helps get you in the flow.

Start with one or two basic things you take for granted, for example: “I’m grateful for a hot shower in the morning.” Or: “I’m grateful for a safe neighborhood.”

Come up with five new things each time you practice. You might find this challenging at first. There should be a little struggle, but push through it. “I’m grateful for the smile of the guy at the bagel shop.” Or: “I’m grateful for my family dinner on Sundays.”

It might seem silly at first, but you’ll notice that the more you express your gratitude, the more you’ll connect to a general feeling of benevolence for others and well-being. Really take a moment for each simple gratitude to sink in. Visualize what you’re grateful for and recall experiencing it.

This gratitude exercise connects you to the world in a positive way. It makes the trivial annoyances in life sting less, and reminds you to note what it is in the world you truly appreciate. When your focus shifts to gratitude, your attitude improves.

Give it a try this week and see what you think. Waiting in line, stuck in traffic, killing time between appointments… they’re all great windows to practice a little gratitude.

Sometimes my clients ask me how I keep my cool when dealing with a difficult real estate deal. Well, this is one of my tricks to keep everything in perspective. If you’re looking for a stress-free home buying or selling experience, I can help: Cindy

Cindy@MiamiCapitalProperties.com or on my cell: 305-710-7640

Go in gratitude…..